Dealing with Breakups!

I know there’s no such thing as completely moving on from a person you once thought was the love of your life. But what’s not meant to be, can’t be yours, right? Anyhow, we can still try and reduce the suffering from our breakups. You’re not alone, we got you!

Let’s look at a few things that can help you to make it through:

1. Do not suppress your feelings after Breakups

Feel the pain, cry, work-out, but let that negativity flow out of your body in any way that suits you. Rant to your BFF. Give yourself a week or two to mourn the loss then slowly start getting back up on your feet.

2. Take a Vacay after Breakups

Yes, I know it sounds a little bit cliched but it really works. Take a solo trip if you wish or ask any close friend to come along with you. Pick out a place that you’ve always wanted to go to and just let yourself enjoy to the fullest. It will be an adventure you accomplish and experience by yourself on your own terms.

3. Unfollow/Unfriend your ex after your breakups

If you cannot bear the sight of them anymore then unfriend them on Facebook and unfollow on Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat etc. Initially, you would want to know what they’re up to but try to resist that urge. It’s important for you to. Gradually, you will find yourself not missing them and you will get used to it pretty soon.

4. Listen to Music

Your favourite artist can make a big difference. Make a playlist for yourself that consists of the songs you love. Put it on while you’re running errands or doing some chores. It will divert your mind from any thoughts of him/her. 

5. Cook to distract your mind

Cooking can be a great activity if you have a lot of time which you’re wasting by thinking about your breakup or grieving over it. Learn from cookbooks or YouTube. Make anything you want and treat yourself to it. Decorate your dish and post it on social media. A little appreciation and attention never harmed anyone.

6. Workout after breakups hits hard

The absence of pleasure-producing endorphins after a break up can make you feel sluggish and miserable. Exercise increases your endorphins. Join a health club, take the stairs instead of the elevator, walk to work, do some yoga or take a salsa lesson. Make a promise to do something active for 30 minutes a day for 30 days, no excuses.

7. Surround yourself with smiles and happy vibes

Make time for some feel good activities — anything from having a cup of tea with a friend or anything else. Be sure to surround yourself with people that will uplift you, not unhappy ones that will just drag you down.